tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2279165836847788127.post1074228600334563373..comments2022-10-28T05:07:16.287-05:00Comments on It'll Fit'll - Fashions for people with Down syndrome: No More Monkeys Jumping On The...Couch!!Sherryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03972405643395082844noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2279165836847788127.post-45748452167739450902007-10-10T17:45:00.000-05:002007-10-10T17:45:00.000-05:00Hi DonnaJean,I know I sound like a broken record, ...Hi DonnaJean,<BR/><BR/>I know I sound like a broken record, but thank you for coming here and supporting us by reading our blogs. I think the positive reinforcement is an excellent idea. Every day she has a good day she is given a piece of candy. She is barely in the door and she is unzipping her backpack looking for it! Today she didn't get one because she didn't listen at recess, again. I explained to her why she didn't get one,I really don't think she cares. She grunted at me and then went on her merry way. Maybe if they give it to her right away at school when she comes inside when she's supposed to,it will help. I will definitely mention it to her teacher. Thanks for the suggestion.<BR/><BR/>I will see you "Rossland"!!!:o)<BR/>SueSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10558353892475418012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2279165836847788127.post-25742203870011639042007-10-10T15:15:00.000-05:002007-10-10T15:15:00.000-05:00Hi Sue!Sounds like your day yesterday was quite ex...Hi Sue!<BR/><BR/>Sounds like your day yesterday was quite exciting! A trip to the ER and getting 6 little ones ready for school, and picture day to boot! I do hope you got some rest finally.<BR/><BR/>About Helen not wanting to leave the playground area. I am sure the teachers are trying everything they can, but, I wanted to make sure they are using the "positive re-inforcement" approach, as opposed to the "time-out" or other negative consequences, which didn't work at all with Laurie. <BR/><BR/>I don't need to tell you about how stubborn our children with DS can be, but I have found that just by giving Laurie one or two choices, and then just walking away and not giving her any attention, she will eventually come around and do whatever it is I need her to do. Such as getting ready to leave for an appointment. She will dawdle and dawdle until I am almost ready to pull my hair out!<BR/><BR/>My daughter Amanda, who is only 21 months older than Laurie, was a Director of a Day Program for adults with disabilities, and has been involved in special education since high school. She is now at home with her own little daughter, Emma, 10 months old!<BR/><BR/>She gives me lots of good advice as to how to deal with Laurie's stubborn behavior.<BR/><BR/>So, instead of yelling and getting myself all worked up, I just tell Laurie that I am leaving and if she wants to come she better get with the program, and then I walk away. Sometimes I have even gotten in the car and driven a bit down the street. ( she sure comes then!)<BR/><BR/>Of course Helen is much younger, and you wouldn't want to frighten her that you were leaving without her, but if she knows you mean business, and could leave her with a sitter or a friend, and she really wants to go with you, she will get the message and get moving.<BR/><BR/>This may help with the playground issue, or it may not. Its all trial and error at this point. But each time she cooperates and comes when called she should get a positive re-inforcement, it could be a sticker on a chart, or reading a special book, or anything that she really likes and wants to do. If she doesn't come or obey a certain command, then she gets ignored and no special treat.<BR/><BR/>This has helped me in the past, and I hope it works for you as well.<BR/><BR/>Of course, though, you may want to find out if there is a specific reason she doesn't want to leave the playground. Could someone be teasing her in class, or something else happening in class she is uncomfortable with? It may not be just wanting to keep playing when time is up. Just something to look in to. <BR/><BR/>Its so much fun being a Mom, isn't it!!!!!!!! (I am being a bit sacrastic, today!) I really do love being Laurie's mom!<BR/><BR/>I always enjoy reading your blogs, they are so heartwarming and real.<BR/><BR/>Hope your day is filled with lots of laughter and sunshine, and no more emergency room trips!<BR/><BR/>Love, DonnaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com